Sex in Tennessee Marriage: Only Centerfolds Are Airbrushed

When Tennessee couples marry, they typically exchange vows of total acceptance. To take the good with the bad. The healthy times with periods of sickness or infirmity. They promise to be there for each other in times of abundance and poverty. And they promise to be there for sex.

Sex is a big part of the marriage contract. If you believe the tabloids, married sex is supposed to be fantastic and effortless all of the time, forever. Fortunately or unfortunately, only centerfolds are airbrushed. In the real world, relationships take effort and sex has its peaks and valleys.

All too often a person’s negative body-image can interfere with sexual relations in the marriage. Avoiding sexual contact can drive the other spouse to look elsewhere for intimacy. And adultery in Tennessee is one of the most common reasons for divorce.

And Then the Kids Came Along…

Finding time for sex in Tennessee marriage. Plans for private time interrupted once again!

For many couples with small children, sex is not nearly as available as it was before the kids were born. Creative parents starved for intimacy are known to seize every opportunity to reunite in the biblical way. As time goes on, however, opportunities for marital bliss may become infrequent or enjoyed only half-heartedly. Want marital advice? Make it a priority to set aside intimate time with each other and stay in practice.

Life Happens

Do not allow a weakened self-image interfere with intimacy. If you are a mother, then your pregnancy probably left you with at least a few of those unsightly stretch marks. The birthing may have been less than ideal with the C-Section scar a permanent reminder of your child’s first day. You are not the only woman who has racked up a few blemishes, though. Life happens to us all. (And husband, stop comparing your wife to “the girl” you married as though they are two different people. You’ve changed, too, in case you didn’t notice.)

To Be Imperfect Is to Be Human

Many of us have tattoos we’re proud of because of what they represent (such as mastectomy tattoos), or tats we’re embarrassed by (because of what they represent). Ear-nose-tongue-navel piercings seemed exotic and trendy in college, but may lack the right stuff by age 40.

We all have scars, imperfections, infirmities, limitations, and vulnerabilities. Some of those are physically noticeable, while others are hidden beneath the skin. No one is perfect, clothes on or clothes off. The important thing is to prevent a negative body-image from destroying an otherwise healthy sexual relationship with your spouse.

As Good as You Want To Be

Past surgeries, accidental injuries, cancer treatments, among other things, often leave visible tracks on our bodies. Beyond physical trauma and emotional scarring, we all get older, too. Our hair turns gray with age (assuming it hasn’t already fallen out). Our teeth are not as pearly as they once were. Our clothes don’t fit quite as well as they used to. And we’ve earned every wrinkle the hard way. But as Toby Keith puts it, “I ain’t as good as I once was, but I’m as good once as I ever was.”

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